On Neediness

I need you vs I want you

I’ve been looking back on my blog and in reading it I can see how needy I was. What a turn off. I lacked independent living skills and basic education for most of my life.

In fact I had thought dependency was ok or even normal. A therapist once told me it was as long as there was no abuse going on.

But that’s not what my story was to be about.

Reading on independence, what independence means, it’s more than just living alone.

A person has to be financially independent, emotionally independent, reality-wise independent meaning don’t look to others for validation.

So with emotionally independent you have to love yourself when no one else will. Learn to cry on your own shoulder.

Financial independence means living within your means and not asking for hand outs.

We all have our own realities so learn to trust your own while respecting someone else’s.

Just 16 years ago I was completely cared for by a doting husband, I foolishly left him just to learn I couldn’t make it on my own. It put me in survival mode.

I was in fact low functioning.

16 years later I’m happy to report that I made it.

I could say it was my perseverance and good naturedness which carried me through.

But I know better than that. It was by the Grace of God that I am here today whole and stable.

I have to get going now. Dinner is on the table.😊 💕 ✨ 🌈 💜

4 thoughts on “On Neediness

  1. It sounds like it’s been a tough road, and yet you hung in there … and look where you are today!

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    1. Yes thank you Don’t Lose Hope. Very tough, definitely not fair, but in the process I’ve become very wise and have learned what really matters in life. Thank you for the support! 😊 💕

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  2. YES!! Same here, I was desperately needy, starved for love, starved for validation, and low on survival skills, until I became a believer in the Lord. For many years, I was agnostic, almost an atheist, because I could not understand how God could exist, and be good and loving and all-knowing and all-powerful, and yet allow so many traumas in this world. I still don’t fully understand that. But when I made a decision to believe and trust in Christ, despite my lack of understanding, my life began to turn around. That was almost 20 years ago. These past two decades haven’t been perfect, of course. But these are by far the best years of my life so far!

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    1. Thank you for that Linda! Yes after having a number of bad experiences I started going to church myself in search of answers. Life definitely began to get better then. The year was 2015.

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